What I've Learned From Bridezillas

There are many tips to be found from those all women networks, We, Oxygen, etc. One show I’ve found to be most helpful in planning the wedding is Bridezillas.

Here are a few things I’ve learned from this underrated show…

FASHION

• If your car can’t fit your veil and/or dress, you need to seriously rethink the fashion statement you are trying to make.
• Veils are expensive, but if you are paying $1,500.00 for a wedding veil, you are getting robbed.

LOVE YOUR WEDDING PARTY

• Your girlfriends are most likely spending hundreds of dollars on dresses they probably won’t wear again, hosting parties in your honor, getting you intoxicated at your bachelorette party, coming in town for every shower, and generally doting at your every need. It is best not treat them like they are still in their terrible twos on your wedding day.
• If you are choosing to get married in your late twenties like I am, chances are, most of your wedding party has been in a wedding before. Although your wedding may be in a different place with a different dress or tux, the procedures are probably the same. Most likely they know how and when to walk down an isle, and after little direction, they know where to stand. If by chance someone in your wedding party has yet to be in a wedding or at least gone to a wedding in the last 30 years, I find it very unnecessary to bark and yell at them. They probably like to take direction just like you do, in a calm, even tempered manner, and they will probably respond better as well.
• It is best not to belittle, threaten, or make your fiancé cry uncontrollably in the weeks prior to your wedding. He has not tied the knot with you yet, and you may be spending extra money on sending out those, “We regret to inform you that our daughter Suzy Q, will not be marrying Billy Bob,” announcements.

BE PREPARED AND HAVE FAITH IN YOUR GUESTS

• Bridezillas are a direct result of being unprepared. Bridezillas are often very nice people who waited until the day of the wedding to do many things that could have been done weeks in advance or that don’t need to be done at all. I watched a recent episode where a bride was stressing out about the table placements. She was still making the list up until minutes prior to the ceremony. Yes, in her beautiful dress, she was writing down who was going to sit where at her reception. She was talking about how this person doesn’t want to sit by this person, and how many problems were caused by this. Solution: let your guests sit where they want. I’m assuming if Billy Bob doesn’t want to sit with Suzy Q after their horrible break up, Billy Bob, will choose a place other than Suzy Q’s table to sit! Have faith in your guest’s ability to make these decisions on their own.

DECORATIONS

• Your guests are not keeping track of how many Japanese lanterns you have hanging, or how big the flower arrangements are on your table. They don’t notice the green hanging thing that you spent an extra $1,000.00 to have in the centerpieces. Quite frankly, you are lucky if they notice the centerpieces at all. I’ve yet to go to a wedding and think, “those centerpieces really sucked!”

In conclusion, besides figuring out that I will never choose to be in a wedding for a friend with a type A personality, I’ve learned not to sweat the small stuff, delegate often, trust the talents of your friends and family members, and focus on what is really important…that you are uniting with someone you plan on spending the rest of your life with. In the end, most Bridezillas let go of their controlling nature, if not to portray the perfect bride, but because they finally see what they had been missing the whole time, that the wedding is all about you, your soul mate, and most of all LOVE.